Discovering the Pioneer Spirit Inside of You – Part 2

In my last post, Discovering the Pioneer Spirit Inside of You – Part 1, I asked the question, “Do you consider your life frontier?” We looked at how your life is confronted with many unfamiliar territories over its course. And although countless people before you may have encountered similar frontiers, these challenges are still unique to you.

Now comes the question, “What do you do with this?” How do you rustle up the courage to step into the unknown and find the gumption to keep going? (If you haven’t read Part 1, I encourage you to read that first.)

Discovering the Pioneer Spirit

Discovering the Pioneer Spirit Inside of You – Part 1

Frontier. The word itself evokes thoughts of majestic landscapes, high plains prairies, mountain ranges untouched by human presence. Wagon trains heading into the Wild West, modern pioneers exploring the reaches of space and diving the depths of our oceans. We rarely use the word in the lexicon of our own lives—instead we use words like season or journey—but your life today is very much frontier.

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Seasons come and go. Like moving to a new area, changing jobs, switching churches, going from football to basketball season. If our team doesn’t do so well, we say: there’s always next season. We weather through these cycles, and we learn what to expect when the next comes around. And so we become seasoned.

A journey is more a long, steady course over a lifetime. Ups and downs. Wide roads and narrow ones. Easy times and hard ones. A beginning and an end. We are taught to appreciate the journey as much as the destination. Others have gone before us on this road, and we learn from their experiences to improve our own chances at a successful life.

But what of a frontier? Does it sound more risky? Untamed? Ballsy, even?

Necessary Endings, Dr. Henry Cloud

Necessary Endings: The Employees, Businesses, and Relationships That All of Us Have to Give Up in Order to Move Forward (New York: HarperBusiness, 2011)

…for us to ever get to a new level, a new tomorrow, or the next step, something has to end. — Dr. Henry Cloud

Most of us learned how to start things, but few of us ever learned how to end things. Creating endings is not something we like to do. It requires change. Rocking the boat. Maybe even throwing someone (or ourselves) overboard. Ouch.

We delay making the necessary change out of fear. Life feels disrupted as it is. Why should we introduce another problem? And we convince ourselves, If I stop investing my time and resources here, this person is going to be mad at me. Yes, they might be. Or, what if I can’t end this relationship?, when you know it’s unhealthy for you. The weight of the confrontation is too great.

So we stick it out. Hope it will improve. A year goes by. Then another. And another. The only ending we get good at is ending back where we started.

In his book Necessary Endings: The Employees, Businesses, and Relationships That All of Us Have to Give Up in Order to Move Forward, best-selling author Dr. Henry Cloud explains what is at stake when we refuse to force an ending.

He calls it the pruning moment, “that clarity of enlightenment when we become responsible for making the decision to either own the vision or not” (page 24). To own the vision. Place your stake in what you have believed all along you should be working toward and start moving in that direction, be it improving your current job situation, paving toward a new career, pursuing an idea, discovering your calling, or re-prioritizing your most important relationships. Often, it’s several.

What I love about Dr. Cloud’s book is he doesn’t encourage you to blindly make sacrificial decisions. There may be no such thing as a stupid question, but there are undeniably stupid decisions. This book helps you avoid this mistake by employing wisdom instead.

Every worthy venture, however, requires risk, and Dr. Cloud does not shy away from this paradox. He helps you analyze your situation, choose which buds and branches of opportunities are the best ones to keep, and which should be pruned (even some very good ones).

The result? The best blossoms of who you are and what you have to offer. The richest of relationships. And the savvy for a lifetime of finishing well.

Necessary Endings is not written for business readers alone. Dr. Cloud applies the truth from both a personal and professional point of view. You will no doubt find it applicable to all aspects of your life.

To order or read more about Necessary Endings click here, and to learn more about best-selling author and speaker Dr. Henry Cloud, you can visit his website here.

The Art of Understanding the Artist in All of Us

Novelist James Scott Bell calls writers “The Fellowship of the Weird.” Cecil Murphey, co-author of the popular 90 Minutes in Heaven: A True Story of Life and Death, shares in his recent newsletter, “Because I like who I am, I like being alone with myself” (after he explains his struggle with loneliness).

Van Gogh Self, We Are All Artists

Run a Google search on “artists are weird” or “artists are misunderstood,” or my favorite, “artists are crazy,” and you’ll get millions of results.

I posed a question on my Facebook page asking, “If you’re an artist, do you feel lonely or misunderstood around non-artists?” The overall answer was yes (mostly the misunderstood part). But where does that leave the non-artist?

3 Virtues Even Non-Trekkies Can Learn from Spock

Many of us were saddened this week at the passing of Leonard Nimoy, an icon (if not the icon) of the Star Trek universe. I guess you could say I’m a trekkie, minus the spock ears. Okay, I did own a pair when I was a kid, but I never wore them in public. Does that still count?

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As I explored the many highlights of Mr. Nimoy’s life, I asked myself, “What can I learn from Nimoy’s most notable character?”

Even if you don’t have pointy ears, I believe you may become a Spock fan after this. Here are three virtues even non-trekkies can learn from Spock. And if you’re already a fan? These will come as no surprise.